If you often say yes when you mean no, feel drained by others’ demands, or avoid conflict to “keep the peace,” it’s time to talk boundaries.
Setting boundaries isn’t selfish. It’s essential for mental health, energy, and self-respect.
What Are Boundaries?
Boundaries are limits you set to protect your time, energy, and well-being. They help define where you end and others begin.
Examples:
- “I don’t check work emails after 6 pm.”
- “I can’t make it this weekend, but I’d love to reschedule.”
- “Please don’t comment on my body.”
Why We Avoid Them:
- Fear of rejection or conflict
- People-pleasing habits
- Guilt from prioritizing yourself
But here’s the truth: healthy relationships require healthy boundaries.
How to Set Boundaries Kindly (But Firmly)
- Be clear and direct — no need to over-explain.
- Use “I” statements: “I need…” or “I’m not available…”
- Practice in low-stakes situations first.
- Expect resistance — that’s okay. Hold the boundary.
- Remind yourself: their reaction is not your responsibility.
Boundaries aren’t walls — they’re doors with doorknobs on your side. You get to decide who comes in and how close.
The more you set them, the easier it becomes.